How to support me
right now.

A simple, shareable tool for telling someone what would actually help.

1
Reflect

Notice how you are right now.

2
Select

Choose what helps and what doesn't.

3
Share

Send your note to the right person.

How to Support Me Right Now — Speaking Grey
1

Where I am right now

Choose the statement that feels closest to your current state.

I feel overwhelmed and don't know what I need first.
I have very little energy for conversation or decisions.
I know what I need, but asking feels difficult.
I am managing, but I need support to be gentler or more specific.
2

What would help

Choose up to four things that would be most helpful right now.

0 of 4 selected
Presence
Listen without fixing
Sit with me
Acknowledge that this is hard
Practical help
Take one thing off my plate
Help me communicate with someone
Space and contact
Check in without pressure
Give me space without disappearing
Help me think
Help me consider a decision while letting me make it
Remind me of what I know about myself
Something else that would help:
3

What makes things harder

Even with good intentions — this is about effect, not blame.

Too many suggestions at once
Being asked to explain everything
Being told to stay positive
Silence that feels like disappearing
People deciding for me
Repeatedly being asked how I am
Something else that tends to make support harder:
4

How to check in — and what I want you to know

Two small things that can make a real difference.

How to check in

Select the approach that would feel right.

A simple text is best
Please ask if I want to talk
Check in gently, but don't expect a full reply
Let me reach out when I'm ready — and trust that I will

One thing I want you to know

Add anything you want the person reading this to understand.

0 / 500

This could be a boundary, a reassurance, a request, or something you are tired of explaining.

Your responses stay in your browser. Speaking Grey does not store them.

Your shareable note

Review it, then copy or share it however feels right.

You can change the wording so this sounds like you.
A note for someone supporting me
How to Support Me Right Now